Learning to love and respect your body is not just a part of ED recovery – it can enhance the way any person thinks about themselves. Once a week, this series will explore my own attitudes to body-loving, spread the love and wisdom of other bloggers and throw out any tips and steps I learn along the way.
They say that after 3-4 months into a relationship is a make or break point where you will either break up or fall in love. The infatuation and excitement is gone and those cute little quirks you once adored in your significant other now make you want to punch them in the neck. Or else you settle down and start into a working, real life relationship that will hopefully last another 3-4 months when another make or break point might rear its head.
Loving yourself can be a similar process. If you are coming from a background of low self esteem and self criticism, then in all likelihood, learning to love your own skin and bones is much like the start of a new relationship. It can be awkward, a bit of a hit and miss while you still test the waters, it can have its ups and downs and days where you think its not worth the effort, you’re not worth the effort and it might be easier just to go back to the enemy you know.
But that horrible awkwardness of the first three months is nothing compared to the absolute awesomeness of starting to fall in love. Think of the excitement of finding out new things about the other, the comfort of someone holding you, another person being totally sweet to you just the way you are. That is how I want you to love yourself.
If it came to three months and the person you were dating did the following:
- Insulted your appearance
- Told you you were stupid
- Forced you into activities that made you sick or unwell
- Harmed you
- Wouldn’t let you take part in the things you loved because you broke one of their ‘rules’
- Took away you confidence
Would you stay with them?
Treating yourself with kindness, respect and love is not something to be ashamed, embarrassed or afraid of. Treat yourself how you would treat your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/lover/other and be ok with that. Be ecstatic about that. Appreciate all your little quirks. Fall in love.